"They teach the basic of sexual health and safety in some parts of the country. No school system that I know of teaches respect, communication and consent- but they're the kind of things that get talked about now, peer to peer."

Swirling his cocoa a little, so the residue on the bottom of the cup kicks up.

"Like how to be kind to one another in bed. And there are magazines and books for how to be good in bed. Sex, more now than in your time, is about pleasure, and there's a new emphasis on pleasing your female partner. Historically women have gotten kind of short shrift in terms of enjoyment of the marriage bed, and that's changing."