"Not when I was young. I never spent any time among my age-group peers
when I was growing up. After that...I suppose you'd laugh at me if I
mentioned Chloe."
At the very least, there's a little too much of Pygmalion and Galatea about
it.
"I wouldn't laugh. I wouldn't recommend it as a long term life plan- I think part of it is the other person's capriciousness- or bloody mindedness. You're supposed to not be able to predict them."
"I'm content to give Rhys what he needs," Elijah says, conscious that it's
not exactly an answer, but still doing the mental arithmetic to come up
with something better.
"Normally, I would interpret the kinds of pangs you're describing as the belated realization that you are beginning to feel more seriously about him and are regretting not taking the step of asking for exclusivity."
Says Quentin, aware that Elijah is never led anywhere he isn't already going, and would protest if this were not the case.
"But of course in exchange for doing so you would probably need to make a personal commitment to listen to those needs first and be working to fulfill them. Rhys- likes to be liked, and needs to be needed. Non-monogamy is a good way for him to get access to that effusiveness from other people."
"Is it just BJ? Or would it be anyone he engaged with? I consider myself in a wardening role with him first and foremost, but he and I have kissed and gotten carried away under the mistletoe over the years."
"Then what I would recommend is to find a way to insulate yourself from the parts that bother you, and reaffirm the things that feel threatened by the new dynamic."
Thinking this over.
"Insulating yourself from Beetlejuice shouldn't be hard. He just wants reactions and you never have any."
"On the other hand, I think it says a lot that Rhys trusts you enough to explain his needs, and to find a creative solution- rather than losing you over one minor concern of compatibility or burying his own needs?"
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Date: 2019-12-11 02:56 pm (UTC)Elijah hums.
"Not when I was young. I never spent any time among my age-group peers when I was growing up. After that...I suppose you'd laugh at me if I mentioned Chloe."
At the very least, there's a little too much of Pygmalion and Galatea about it.
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Date: 2019-12-11 03:02 pm (UTC)As horrible as it does feel right now.
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Date: 2019-12-11 03:04 pm (UTC)"Naturally. If I could, I wouldn't be experiencing my current...."
He stares at the ceiling for a moment.
"...romantic hurdle."
The R-word does not come easily, but he knows perfectly well that he's offering up his own bumpy love life as a distraction.
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Date: 2019-12-11 03:09 pm (UTC)Consider him both apologetic and distracted.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:00 pm (UTC)"No, this...predates that. It's resolvable, just - not a situation I'm accustomed to."
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:02 pm (UTC)He has- a fair bit of an idea of what's going on.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:03 pm (UTC)"Strictly between ourselves?"
A faint grimace.
"I agreed to an open relationship without being fully cognisant of whom I might be opening it to."
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:08 pm (UTC)Oh, look, an authentic grimace.
"I wasn't aware this was quite such common knowledge."
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:11 pm (UTC)He says, placatingly.
"It was important I work out if he was going to go on a vengeance kick."
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:17 pm (UTC)"...I see."
He exhales slowly.
"It's fine. I'm just trying to...get over myself, I suppose."
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:18 pm (UTC)Wonders Quentin, because that part of the story sounds very different to how Rhys tells it.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:20 pm (UTC)"I'm content to give Rhys what he needs," Elijah says, conscious that it's not exactly an answer, but still doing the mental arithmetic to come up with something better.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:28 pm (UTC)Hitching his knees to his chest, folding his arms around them.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:37 pm (UTC)"How explicit does it need to be? We discussed the possibility of sleeping with other people, and now that's happening."
Shift ladder. More lightbulbs.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:44 pm (UTC)For one thing.
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:49 pm (UTC)"We aren't serious enough for this to merit that level of specificity," Elijah says. "We'd never formally agreed we'd be exclusive."
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Date: 2019-12-11 04:54 pm (UTC)Says Quentin, aware that Elijah is never led anywhere he isn't already going, and would protest if this were not the case.
"But of course in exchange for doing so you would probably need to make a personal commitment to listen to those needs first and be working to fulfill them. Rhys- likes to be liked, and needs to be needed. Non-monogamy is a good way for him to get access to that effusiveness from other people."
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:04 pm (UTC)"I agree. So this is an arrangement which works and that I have no reason to disrupt."
The first remark is simply discounted. His feelings are immaterial since his needs are less...
Just less. Than Rhys'.
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:08 pm (UTC)He says, and plucks at the knee of his pants.
"Is it just BJ? Or would it be anyone he engaged with? I consider myself in a wardening role with him first and foremost, but he and I have kissed and gotten carried away under the mistletoe over the years."
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:10 pm (UTC)"That's the Barge," he says dismissively. "It's not making me unhappy. Any adjustment period is a little uncomfortable."
It's at least sixty per cent BJ.
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:14 pm (UTC)Thinking this over.
"Insulating yourself from Beetlejuice shouldn't be hard. He just wants reactions and you never have any."
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:18 pm (UTC)"I don't feel threatened," Elijah says flatly. "Even if Rhys feels that monogamy is his preference and his usual partner is the problem, I'll adjust."
Lightbulbs shouldn't be consuming this much of his attention. When has talking about himself ever been a good idea, honestly.
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:20 pm (UTC)He agrees, thinking it over;
"On the other hand, I think it says a lot that Rhys trusts you enough to explain his needs, and to find a creative solution- rather than losing you over one minor concern of compatibility or burying his own needs?"
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Date: 2019-12-11 05:33 pm (UTC)"Where does trust come into it? Expressing one's needs is simply self-interest."
Please help this idiot.
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